Wednesday, September 8, 2010

One Year Later...

Almost one year later...and, boy, have we come a long ways, baby!

I almost feel like celebrating.  One year of an almost more real marriage.  One year of honesty.  One year of sharing.  One year. 

My best friend lost her husband this past weekend.  Sudden heart attack at age 48.  Two kids - 10 and 12 years of age.  It's made me think a lot, this week, about my marriage, about William and our relationship.  I wouldn't change William for anything - well, okay, maybe, honestly, sometimes I wish that the AGP could go, but it's also part of who my husband is.  Part of why he is the way he is.  And I love him, so..., no...I wouldn't change him for anything.  (I'd just have had him tell me sooner!)

Reality is...there's nothing earth-shattering to blog about anymore.  We are doing well.  Real Life has taken over again, AGP no longer dominates everything we do...or think about.  I still read the blogs (I'm thrilled that there is so much discussion about it!)  I'm still interested in learning more about AGP, but I'm not obsessed with it.  We are, obviously, still aware of it.  It doesn't go away.  We are still aware that William needs to be in control of it, else it gain control of him again.  So when we need to, when life gets stressful and "triggers" come up, we still talk about ways to deal with AGP, but those discussions are becoming rarer.   More and more often, we just share our needs with each other - and satisfy them together. 

I'm proud of us.  We've worked hard to make "us" work - and we are both happy.  So Congratulations to Us! 



  1. Susanne,

    Congratulations are in order for you and William making the one year mark. While I'd like to say that Amy and Jim are there too, I can't. If wishes were fishes, right? Jim is trying to bring Amy along in his travels, it's still a bit rough. Jim and I have been reading and blogging extensively on the subject but this is really new territory for Amy and she is having a tough time adjusting. I believe that over time Amy and I can be good friends, I just have to be patient with her.

    Your friends tragic loss didn't escape my notice. Amy and Jim are both in their middle forties, and stories of that happening are legend. We just don't know. My prayers go out to your friend and her kids.

    You mentioned a word in your post that struck a chord with me, and also answers why I'm here and posting in the first place. Honesty. I believe that Jim needed to come out voluntarily to Amy about me and his AGP. While I agree we can't or even shouldn't be perfectly honest with everyone we run into, we absolutely must be honest with our spouse. I wish you and William well on your way.


  2. Congratulations to both of you! Here's to the next 50 years!


  3. Congrats Susanne. To many happy years with both the man and woman. Suzie

  4. Dear Susanne,

    I have read every post you made in your Blog and every comment and I just finished it today. It was a very good read and I have learnt a lot about AGZ and myself!

    I want to thank you for making this blog and for your witty writing (Which made me read it like a book...hey there's an idea :-)

    I think you are totally awesome and I wish you and your family all the best in the world!

    Thanks again.
    With kind regards.